We spent our childhoods watching movies and reading stories about heroes triumphing over villains. Underdogs who stood up for what’s right, protected their tribe, and put their values on full display as they fought for the things they believed in. We watched as they risked their lives to defend what were, at the end of…
Author: Hailee
I’m in my 30s, and I am originally from RI but am currently living in CT with my husband and daughter. When I’m not working from home or writing, I love to cook, read (as if I ever have the time), spend time outdoors, and fuel my passions as a horror movie buff. I have an undergraduate degree in psychology and journalism and a master's degree in psychology, both of which influenced my decision to start this blog and the content I include in it. I love to write, and this blog is exactly the creative outlet I cherish!
Before you
Before you There were a few instances in my life when I remember stopping time During times of unique silence that extended past just the absence of sound When I noticed the kind of quiet that you feel in your soul I had paused to reflect on where I was Who I was Why I…
Raise your kids like you raise tomatoes
New parents struggle with all kinds of things. Sleep deprivation, time management, lifestyle changes, physical changes, the list goes on and on. But one change persists (arguably) longer than others, and that is the fear that you’re a bad parent. There might come a day that I am at peace with the changes in my…
Goodbye, my good boy
There are so many things that people don’t talk about following the loss of a pet. My soul dog crossed the rainbow bridge on the evening of September 15, 2023. It happened quickly. He suffered heart failure, and there was little we could do. We made the excruciating decision to end his pain, with full…
You should smile more.
You should smile more… …you’re so much prettier when you smile. The public response to this blog is something that I have thought about often during its creation, and throughout its evolution I was prepared for people to read it and think: “What the hell kind of burn-your-bra, hear-me-roar, I’m-an-independent-woman-who-don’t-need-no-man shit is this?” But the…
Woman-up, woman. People-pleasing is so OUT this year
People-pleasing leads to self loathing. I am a recovering people-pleaser. I grew up as a scared child because I was subjected to bullying within my own family, I wasn’t protected by some of the people who were tasked to do so as my caregivers, and no space was ever safe for me to be my…
Hey, Generational Trauma…F*** YOU.
“Transgenerational trauma refers to a type of trauma that does not end with the individual. Instead, it lingers and gnaws through one generation to the next. Families with a history of unresolved trauma, depression, anxiety, and addiction may continue to pass maladaptive coping strategies and distrustful views of life onto future generations. In this way,…
Respect your elders? No thank you.
What is an archaic (and thankfully dying) belief that I grew up with? I’m so glad you asked! That just because someone is blood related to you, you must have associations with them. What is another archaic (and thankfully dying) belief that I grew up with? That just because someone is older than me, I…
To say, or not to say?
Today, I made my coffee at 7am. I later dumped it down the drain at about 4pm, only a few sips lower and after microwaving it twice throughout the day. Just like I did the day before. Then I did it again the next day. A harsh reality that I learned when I had my…
My top 3 steps for a little bit of damn peace
Step 1 – Figure out your identity, or at least who you want to be. Words cannot hurt you if you have a strong sense of self. Of course, that depends on what your definition of “hurt” is, but in this context I’m saying that nobody can make you question your worth or second guess…
Depression. What a bitch.
After taking a lengthy hiatus from writing and ignoring my blog completely, a recent bout of depression has pushed me to once again put pen to paper. Or…fingers to keys, I suppose. It’s not every day that I feel like I don’t want to live anymore, but even one day like that is far too…
My Keto Experience
Over time, I have developed a love/hate relationship with the Ketogenic, AKA “Keto” diet. While the Keto diet has been around for quite some time, it has caught on in popular culture recently. It is the new trend for celebrities and civilians alike to drop some weight, sleep better, clear their skin, and just feel…
Trigger Warning: Mind Your Mental
Trigger Warning: Suicide, Depression Mental health is a funny thing. It is not static. It changes and evolves each day, moment by moment as our brains absorb more information about the world and about ourselves. It is also extremely personal. Unlike a broken arm or a bruise or a cut, outsiders cannot see if you…
Stop filling your face to fill your heart!
People eat for a number of reasons, the obvious being to … duh … survive. But when does the need for food cross over from a basic biological necessity to an actual psychological problem? For me, I have straddled the line between healthy habits and disordered eating for years. Why? Because food has become an escape from my…
Call it as you see it
I am going to take a second to reflect on why it is I stress-eat. Bear with me. A whole lot of gut-spilling is on deck. Was it really trauma? Was it actually abuse? Was it truly neglect? Something I’ve begun to truly confront in recent months is whether or not certain experiences I had…
I'm Hungry & Everything Hurts... 