We spent our childhoods watching movies and reading stories about heroes triumphing over villains. Underdogs who stood up for what’s right, protected their tribe, and put their values on full display as they fought for the things they believed in. We watched as they risked their lives to defend what were, at the end of…
Category: Mommyhood & Womanhood
Before you
Before you There were a few instances in my life when I remember stopping time During times of unique silence that extended past just the absence of sound When I noticed the kind of quiet that you feel in your soul I had paused to reflect on where I was Who I was Why I…
Raise your kids like you raise tomatoes
New parents struggle with all kinds of things. Sleep deprivation, time management, lifestyle changes, physical changes, the list goes on and on. But one change persists (arguably) longer than others, and that is the fear that you’re a bad parent. There might come a day that I am at peace with the changes in my…
Goodbye, my good boy
There are so many things that people don’t talk about following the loss of a pet. My soul dog crossed the rainbow bridge on the evening of September 15, 2023. It happened quickly. He suffered heart failure, and there was little we could do. We made the excruciating decision to end his pain, with full…
You should smile more.
You should smile more… …you’re so much prettier when you smile. The public response to this blog is something that I have thought about often during its creation, and throughout its evolution I was prepared for people to read it and think: “What the hell kind of burn-your-bra, hear-me-roar, I’m-an-independent-woman-who-don’t-need-no-man shit is this?” But the…
Woman-up, woman. People-pleasing is so OUT this year
People-pleasing leads to self loathing. I am a recovering people-pleaser. I grew up as a scared child because I was subjected to bullying within my own family, I wasn’t protected by some of the people who were tasked to do so as my caregivers, and no space was ever safe for me to be my…
Hey, Generational Trauma…F*** YOU.
“Transgenerational trauma refers to a type of trauma that does not end with the individual. Instead, it lingers and gnaws through one generation to the next. Families with a history of unresolved trauma, depression, anxiety, and addiction may continue to pass maladaptive coping strategies and distrustful views of life onto future generations. In this way,…
Respect your elders? No thank you.
What is an archaic (and thankfully dying) belief that I grew up with? I’m so glad you asked! That just because someone is blood related to you, you must have associations with them. What is another archaic (and thankfully dying) belief that I grew up with? That just because someone is older than me, I…
To say, or not to say?
Today, I made my coffee at 7am. I later dumped it down the drain at about 4pm, only a few sips lower and after microwaving it twice throughout the day. Just like I did the day before. Then I did it again the next day. A harsh reality that I learned when I had my…
An Open Letter to my Future Children
Growing up in a large family of strong personalities is a blessing and a curse. The blessing – children grow up with a close-knit network of loved ones who mold them into people. They absorb lessons from the people around them and learn how to navigate life. The curse – children grow up with a…
I'm Hungry & Everything Hurts... 